I can't tell you how many times I have watched men swagger up to my girlfriends and I in an attempt to charm us with their rugged good looks, intellectual capacity and the ability to buy us drinks after drinks only to be denied again and again. It’s not because we’re snobs or prudes (face it, a nightclub is one of the few places we expect to get hit on) but because most of you make it blatantly clear that all you care about is whether or not you’re going to get lucky at the end of the night.... Instant turnoff!
To acknowledge the many men out there who genuinely need a little advice, I’ve decided to break girl code and share with you some tips and tricks on how to pick up girls at a club. It’s all about the 3 A’s gentlemen…
(Little known fact, girls can't resist a yellow shirt)
Approach
Do not go use any lame one-liners that you read off the internet. Give us some credit here. We know what you’re trying to do so be direct in your approach. Either come up to us and ask if we want some company or if you’re a little skilled in the flirtation department, ask a question that requires a response. The worst you’ll get is a no. Do not be rude or ignorant if you get rejected as chances are very high that you’ll bump into us again within the night. Be remembered as the cute guy that tried as opposed to the dick who can’t take rejection. Cute guys always get a second chance where dicks will never.
Attitude
Please don’t cop a “you’re-so-lucky-I’ve-chosen-you” attitude – we can spot a rat a mile away! Be genuine, attentive and most importantly fun. We love a guy who can make us laugh so avoid heavy topics such as cheating ex-girlfriends, religion or politics. Don’t forget to make eye-contact with us either! We hate a guy who can’t keep eye contact because it sends the message that you’re not interested – big mistake. I’ve said it once, but I’ll say it again, be genuine! Don’t pass yourself off as some hoity-toity executive when in reality you’re the manager at the local Mickey Ds. Save yourself some embarrassment cause we’ll always find out.
Ask
Don’t be afraid of asking us things. Ask us if we’d like to dance, ask us if we’d like a drink, ask us for our number. Do not assume anything so ask instead. The worst that will happen is we’ll say no. If that happens, remember what I said about rejection.
(Be sure to ask if she has friends...)
While I’m not guaranteeing a 100% success rate with these 3 A’s, it will at least up your chances significantly.
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