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On 7/2/2008 1:53:40 PM, blackwidow wrote:
Should i continue texting him or emailing him in hopes i get on his nerves again and get some sort of response?
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It's a super-duper fine line between being truly wanting him to know you're still interested.. and being seen as a whiny 'lil stalker..
I'd say.. one more message, letting him know it's the last message.. telling him that you're ready to try again. - if he is.. and then leave it up to him.. if he doesn't respond under those circumstances, you pretty much have your answer..
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:57:07 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:53:00 PM, Cravey wrote:
nah, you don't need therapy.. hell, that's what we're here for..
what you need, dear child, is the ability to drop your guard and in a kinda submissive way (noooo not like that), let him know that you may have made a mistake.. and that if he wants to give it another whirl, you'd be happy to meet him half way..
if that doesn't work, well.. you're ready for guy # 5..
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so i should try to contact him again, even though he's ignored me twice already?
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:57:44 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:53:40 PM, blackwidow wrote:
well, he was much older than me, i think he was set in his certain ways and in some aspects we clashed. but who doesn't right? unless you get lucky and meet your soul mate and all that mumbo jumbo. And yes, there is two sides of the story, i'm not saying i was a saint, cuz you all know thats impossible for me. but our second chance together i just wasn't ready and i wanted to take things slow with him to get to know HIM. he didn't want that and he got upset at me for that. Now he's ignoring me....i think if he just told me to shut up or fuk off, i'd be more content with that then no response at all. Should i continue texting him or emailing him in hopes i get on his nerves again and get some sort of response?
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I wouldn't. But that's just me.
i understand you'd like to feel that sense of closure, but you made your effort, you can't FORCE him to be a grown-up and return your call.text.
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:58:53 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:57:44 PM, blackwidow wrote:
so i should try to contact him again, even though he's ignored me twice already?
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I still havent gotten any messages :(
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:59:02 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:57:44 PM, blackwidow wrote:
so i should try to contact him again, even though he's ignored me twice already?
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yes.. one more time (see my just posted post)..
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:59:25 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:57:07 PM, Cravey wrote:
It's a super-duper fine line between being truly wanting him to know you're still interested.. and being seen as a whiny 'lil stalker..
I'd say.. one more message, letting him know it's the last message.. telling him that you're ready to try again. - if he is.. and then leave it up to him.. if he doesn't respond under those circumstances, you pretty much have your answer..
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Again, GREAT ANSWER!!!!!!
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:59:55 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:53:14 PM, tourist trap wrote:
Any way you slice it there's going to be a little animosity in the relationship if you try to reinstate it now. I think the guys have it nailed with giving everything (particularly yourself) a little time. You know he wouldn't feel the same way about everything now (and neither would you), but I'm sure he still loves you regardless. Those feelings don't go away for a long time.
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very true...i know there is going to be a lot of animosity along with no trust. which is another reason i'm so afraid to really just get up and drive to his house and let him hear me out.
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:00:11 PM
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taking cravey's advice, i think i'm gonna leave it where it is. i already tried by sending him an email AND a text! thats more than what i've done for any of my other ex's. i guess the ball is on his court now, he can proceed as he wishes, if i don't get a response, i'll be happy i got my closure.
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:05:26 PM
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On 7/2/2008 2:03:44 PM, Shaun_Blaze wrote:
Yup!
I just don't think I'd care enough to send a third message.
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yea - fine line I agree.. just think if you word things in a way that says "this is it", it brings closure, if things head that way.. otherwise, he may be thinking... "why should I answer - I know there are three more messages headed my way"..
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:06:06 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:34:12 PM, blackwidow wrote:
dated someone for a very short period of time and thought maybe their not the right person for you for whatever reason, and after you guys break up, you can't get them out of your head. What do you do? do you lower yourself and run after them or do you just let it go and keep telling yourself you did the right thing?
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how can someone be the wrong person when you are with him, and be right away the right person when you are not with him?
for me it is the other way around
the right person is with you, and the wrong person was never really there
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:17:43 PM
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You're making me want to ask my current "relationship" questions now...
brings up so much of what i'm feeling, mostly confusion.
Do i need my own thread?? lol
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:19:38 PM
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On 7/2/2008 2:19:38 PM, intricate wrote:
You're making me want to ask my current "relationship" questions now...
brings up so much of what i'm feeling, mostly confusion.
Do i need my own thread?? lol
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make one if you feel like talking about it
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:20:41 PM
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On 7/2/2008 1:34:12 PM, blackwidow wrote:
dated someone for a very short period of time and thought maybe their not the right person for you for whatever reason, and after you guys break up, you can't get them out of your head. What do you do? do you lower yourself and run after them or do you just let it go and keep telling yourself you did the right thing?
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no i always date them WAY past their expiry date then by the time i realize it's over... it's WAY overdue... and i'm done.
it's hard p. but try to see it for what it is.
sometimes things get off to a bad start and they deserve another shot.
but the core of who they are will never change. so if you can't deal with them, best to move along and stay busy and try to forget.
no use in punishing yourselves with round 2... or 3 or 4
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:22:14 PM
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