sweetskitt...
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This relates to the hijack i did on Lisa's thread.
Only positive input THANKS!
haha
Anyways i feel like i'm a pushover..like i enable people to treat me poorly becasue i always say yes or am so easily swayed.
At this point i do get annoyed and angry with it if it happens but..it always happens again.
For example..if someone asks me to come out on a Friday night and i have no money etc.
With very little prodding i can be swayed to go...becasue i get guilt tripped.
How do i stop this insanity?
I know i need to learn to say no..but it is much deeper than that..
i can say no..but i cant stick to it..
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sweetskitt...
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it is difficult...becasue i do it not to enrage people..
i like just being easygoing and not high maintenance..
at the same time i get used it seems..
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:26:07 PM
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Sashy
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On 4/29/2008 3:22:29 PM, sweetskittlez wrote:
This relates to the hijack i did on Lisa's thread.
Only positive input THANKS!
haha
Anyways i feel like i'm a pushover..like i enable people to treat me poorly becasue i always say yes or am so easily swayed.
At this point i do get annoyed and angry with it if it happens but..it always happens again.
For example..if someone asks me to come out on a Friday night and i have no money etc.
With very little prodding i can be swayed to go...becasue i get guilt tripped.
How do i stop this insanity?
I know i need to learn to say no..but it is much deeper than that..
i can say no..but i cant stick to it..
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you just need to think of you...and WHAT you wanna do. It is just about saying no. I dunno what to say to make it better...but i was a person for example with going out who would always say yes...but now, even if its the hottest party and everyone is going...if im not in the mood, ill say no. something just hit me one day...and bam.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:28:23 PM
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li sa
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I can be a pain in the ass... but I don't care.
Everyone knows where they stand with me, and I don't hold grudges I get it all out! Sometimes too much! lol
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:34:25 PM
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On 4/29/2008 3:32:42 PM, sweetskittlez wrote:
I do what you say Sashy..i really do..but i cant hold my ground!
People pull out the "it would mean alot to me card" or "aww come on! i never see you!"
Then i believe the hype and i fall into the pressure.
Not just going out..everything. If someone is mad at me i always end up aplogizing while they get off scott freee.
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well that is a kind of bullying, say i cant go out cos im skint but you can come over and have a few drinks at my house
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:35:32 PM
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li sa
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On 4/29/2008 3:22:29 PM, sweetskittlez wrote:
For example..if someone asks me to come out on a Friday night and i have no money etc.
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I'd say, I'd really love to come but I can't afford it.
If you want me to come it's going to be your treat this time... and I'll get it when I can.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:36:00 PM
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On 4/29/2008 3:31:09 PM, sweetskittlez wrote:
HAHAHAHA!!!! oh really? Well i have news for you! Im selling them all this weekend!
I guess you have no use for me now!
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nope now were not friends.
did you get a birth announcment in the mail? i cant remember if i sent yours? haha
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:36:31 PM
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sweetskitt...
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haha i do say that...ahh
well i do get bullied a bit. Im assuming its from years of people knowing they can get away with it.
When i stand up for myself then iam "a bitch"
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:37:22 PM
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x-stacey
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On 4/29/2008 3:22:29 PM, sweetskittlez wrote:
This relates to the hijack i did on Lisa's thread.
Only positive input THANKS!
haha
Anyways i feel like i'm a pushover..like i enable people to treat me poorly becasue i always say yes or am so easily swayed.
At this point i do get annoyed and angry with it if it happens but..it always happens again.
For example..if someone asks me to come out on a Friday night and i have no money etc.
With very little prodding i can be swayed to go...becasue i get guilt tripped.
How do i stop this insanity?
I know i need to learn to say no..but it is much deeper than that..
i can say no..but i cant stick to it..
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I used to be the exact same way, it took me a lot of years to learn that it is okay to say no.
I was always worried about hurting the other peoples feelings, then I woke up one day and "wtf! What about MY feelings?!?!"
From that moment of realisation, I have had no problem saying no, but I also offer a reasonable explanation as to why I'm saying no.
I'm honest about things... "I just don't feel like it tonight, sorry", or my most common one... "I'm sorry I just can't afford to right now".
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:37:57 PM
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sweetskitt...
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On 4/29/2008 3:36:31 PM, canucks_girl wrote:
nope now were not friends.
did you get a birth announcment in the mail? i cant remember if i sent yours? haha
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i did not get an adorable birth announcement
iam hurt
*cries*
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:38:51 PM
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li sa
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On 4/29/2008 3:37:57 PM, x-stacey wrote:
I used to be the exact same way, it took me a lot of years to learn that it is okay to say no.
I was always worried about hurting the other peoples feelings, then I woke up one day and "wtf! What about MY feelings?!?!"
From that moment of realisation, I have had no problem saying no, but I also offer a reasonable explanation as to why I'm saying no.
I'm honest about things... "I just don't feel like it tonight, sorry", or my most common one... "I'm sorry I just can't afford to right now".
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Yeah, that comes with age.... I was the same way, now not.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:39:29 PM
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sweetskitt...
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On 4/29/2008 3:39:29 PM, li sa wrote:
Yeah, that comes with age.... I was the same way, now not.
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I'am waiting for this natural progression of self assurance and maturity to hit me. I have changed alot in the past year...but there is so much to come with age that i cant wait for..lol.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:43:51 PM
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